Here's How Sex Work Blogging Made Me Totally Rich

Why have so many sex workers recently started blogging? I've always shared my experiences and thoughts online (shout out LiveJournal) and have been blogging for a few years as a SW under my old persona. However, my clients never mentioned my blogs in the past and today, my most generous and awesome clients often tell me my blogs are specifically what drew them to be. Let me go over what changed with my writing and hopefully relay some useful information to other SWers, online or in-person.

Everyone's Become a Blogger

Just a few years ago, only a small handful of in-person providers had client-facing blogs and I understand why: It's very difficult to make sex work blogging "fun" when you're unable to be your authentic self due to worries about losing clients lest the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind mask slips and we reveal too many uncomfy, totally human emotions and experiences. Therefore, many SWers go by pseudonyms and have anonymous blogs, which I may or may not have myself.

In my always correct opinion, more SWers have recently begun writing client-facing blogs because the SW market is extremely competitive and saturated compared to a decade ago when I could skate by on being nice, attractive and well spoken. Being super pale/white privileged and a natural redhead helped. Overly articulate, nerd-branded, reasonably hot ladies like me are now a dime a dozen and we separate ourselves from the crowd by promoting ourselves via writing. There are also more SWers in general so more SW blogs exist today compared to just five years ago.

Not to engage in my favorite activity of beating a dead doxxer horse, but I knew something had shifted within the SW ecosystem when the predatory Vegas escort, V.P., who outed me (and other providers) to our families (and called CPS, landlords, hacked us, etc.) had recently started a blog. If a barely sentient sociopath with the writing ability of a thirteen year old was passing herself off as a "blogger," everyone was about to hop on the SW blogging train. I began attempting to explain how I use this medium to both remain (moderately) authentic and attract clients because I knew this would be a hot topic.

Did blogging make me "rich"? No, I've always been fabulously, painfully wealthy and I simply do SW in order to quench my rabid horniness but I was shocked by the amount of extremely generous and kind repeat clients I've met since switching my blogging up from purely marketing BS to a dash of marketing BS served with a hot, steaming portion of genuine humanity.

Stop selling 24/7 or I'll love tap you with my crop.

Stop Selling

We must have a strong spirit if we choose to get personal with our blogging because it can attract negative attention from those who seek to project their insecurities onto us. This won't be worth the risk for those who aren't passionate about self expression.

Something that every SW can do, however, is stop selling for a moment. The internet is sick of inauthenticity, sales pitches and fakery. Write what you feel and are passionate about. My blogs on the occult, magic/energy work have attracted some of my best, most generous clientele yet I wrote them for myself and as a way to help other SWers awaken to their Goddess given powers. Doing things for others from the heart can have surprising benefits like attracting likeminded people to you.

Who knew my witchcraft blogs written on a misunderstood, maligned, mostly matriarchal spiritual practice would interest horny dudes online? I certainly didn't.

But Don't Forget to Sell...

I try to maintain a delicate balance between selling experiences and fantasies to my readers while also writing for writing's sake and not giving a fuck if anyone likes it. Those IDGAF cathartic blogs often end up being the ones that resonate strongest with my clientele but it's a smart idea to also use our blogs to write about the various experiences we offer to clients like duos (I'll stop procrastinating on that one day.), couples sessions, and kinky fun.

For example, I want to write about how hot my duo partner is and recount a specific fantasy I want to engage in with them. For example, I want Mya Monet the muscle lady (who's very dainty until she flexes) to hold me down, pull my hair and pound my ginger minge with a cute pink dildo. Then we're going to take turns having our way with you, restraining you, breaking you down into a little pile of mush and lovingly building you back up again.

Oops, is that too much? Whatever, my admirers love it.

Discuss that fun day date walking around NYC or your dream yacht date, chock full of beautiful vistas, champagne eleganza and sea breeze BJs.

Forever a Writer

It helps if you've always been a writer. When I was young, I'd lock myself in my room and write. I wrote an 8th grade, self published gossip rag (think People Magazine) about our school, recounting all the nicknames us girls had for the boys. For example, Tom was Mot. I kid you not. We were quite clever, no?

Did you sit up at night, writing poetry on your family PC? Have you always used writing as your mode of self expression, crying, snot dripping down your face as you recount the horrors of late stage capitalism and the lie of meritocracy?

If you're anything like me, SW blogging may not only be cathartic but it will make you money because this is your universe given gift; It's what you were put on this planet to do. We are all here for a reason, as many ancient indigenous tribes believed, and each one of us has a different gift we're meant to use in order to benefit the whole of humanity. If writing has always been something we enjoy then we're more likely to financially benefit from it because the universe rewards those of us who follow our life's calling.

If we haven't always been a writer and don't actually enjoy expressing ourselves this way, others can tell. If we're writing simply to snark on others, our blogging will backfire and turn clients off. If we're pumping out AI or dispassionate marketing blogs, folks can inherently sense this and I'm not sure if it'll be worth the time and effort to do so.

Money Making Metanoia

Writing about transformational experiences in our lives humanizes us. Potential clients may relate to us if we blog about our hobbies and flex wealth porn but to truly hypnotize and lure in high quality admirers, I've found that simply being a human is all that's required.

Writing about the profoundly traumatic experience of being tormented by an "unbalanced" (the world my Father used to describe V.P. after she harassed him/outed me) SW from Twitter and the powerfully positive yet painful transformation that experience forced in my life has oddly drawn clients to me. I discuss how trauma forced me to either end it all or evolve into an utterly different person. It wasn't only this demonic doxxer/stalker situation, I had deadly health conditions that worsened during that time. The two situations coalesced into my losing everything only to find myself, as I've written about previously.

When recently watching The Wire, widely considered the best TV show of all time, I realized that most of the characters go through profound transformational experiences, providing a relatable and riveting narrative because the viewer has no idea what's going to unfold next. Characters who evolve are also extremely relatable to us because most people shift their ways of being over time. Writing about transformation in my life and deeply personal, definitely-not-marketing-material hardships have, to my shock, drawn a totally new type of client to me.

Additionally, blogging about my former insecurities, the physical aspects that I was mocked for when I was younger (natural red hair and very pale, porcelain skin) and how, over time, I realized that my natural red hair was literally a superpower and that being super pale was a privilege that attracted certain very passionate admirers to me.

Do most people feel comfortable getting personal for the world to either relate to, love, or rip apart because our story symbolizes something they don't like about themselves? Probably not and that's why I think most SWers shouldn't blog because they refuse to get personal and therefore, their writing bores me. No one but the most obsessed admirer truly cares which Michelin star restaurant you ate at. (Wait, hold on, you're telling me that other sex workers' blogs aren't written to entertain me? That doesn't sound right.)

Kinky Erotica Rocks

Yes, I've always been a weirdo, a hedonist, a horny horn dog who's written extremely descriptive, utterly depraved erotica so I could get off while reading it later or email it to my partners to both instruct and arouse. SWers are selling emotional labor and sex so get gauche with it. Give the reader what they want if you want to draw their attention and empty out their wallets. I truly enjoy being a sexually liberated whore on the internet so IDK what to tell you. Society and slut shamers will tell SWers we're wrong regardless of what we do so my motto is, "Give 'em a show."

Throw it in their faces because they're furtively watching either way. Then, once we truly have their undivided attention via our raw sexuality, we can lay down some foundational truths about the validity, expertise, artistic value and hard, intelligent work that goes into successful modern SW.

Specifically, I focus on certain kinks and fetishes that I've found are extremely popular with my clients like Kinky GFE (domination plus full service AKA sensual domination), facesitting, nylons, impact play, high heels, office orgasms and more.

Many providers tip toe around sex and don't dare to get explicit with their marketing. Generous men who book me love explicit so I don't understand the hesitancy. It feels shame based.

I do love to play the provocateur and shock my audience. Ever the attention whore, I enjoy getting my readers off with my blogging but this may be difficult for the more prudish, whorephobic whores amongst us. (Yes, I've witnessed SWers slut shaming and being sex-negative towards other workers many a time.)

By the Power of the Gods, Goddesses, Ancestors and Spirit Guides: Kind, generous, attractive admirers are seduced by my writing. In the name of the Father, Son, Holy Ghost, Amen. In the name of the Mother, Maiden, Holy Crone, so shall it be.

Get Spiritual With It

When I write these blogs, I'm engaging in ritual. My writing transformed after I taught myself how to utilize occult techniques and began working with certain plants and energies to open the door to loving and successful communication, poetry and Divine inspiration. If I don't do a quick little working and light a candle to invoke certain energies when blogging, it simply doesn't resonate with people in the correct way and I get less positive feedback from clients.

I have two spell candles going as we speak. Practicing magic/energy work is extremely simple: If we knock, the elements (earth, wind, fire, water, Spirit) and the energies of nature will respond.

Don't Harass Other SWers

This shouldn't have to be said, but naming other SWers in our blogs and tagging them repeatedly on social media is harassment. If someone is not responding to you and we continuously harass them in a targeted, repetitive way by naming/slandering/crap talking, that's the definition of targeted harassment and is against Tryst's TOS. We could get banned from their site. Yet, a few SWers with blogs engage in this sort of nasty behavior and are losing clients by making snark the focus of their blogging.

Snark is the opposite of seduction.

Certain SWers attempt to disguise their harassment as being a "service to the community" when it's simple harassment/slander designed to further harm their victims. Bullying other workers with our blogs is the opposite of how we successfully market ourselves online. I'd love to name the sex workers who doxxed (and more) myself and others, but that simply feeds their narcissism and brings them free PR but I occasionally use initials so other SWers can be aware.

You're Chained to Me. Forever Mine. Now heel for your Better.

Images Entice Our Readers

Creating silly AI images and interspersing them throughout my blog has helped to keep people interested and retains their attention. The more shocking and weird the header image, the more folks will click on and consume my blogs. I don't write these simply to attract clients; I want everyone in the universe reading my work and in order to do this I have to be entertaining. This life isn't merely about money for me.

Using only images of myself is boring to most people and I generally try to source images from not only my ridiculously large database of Rose images but I also use stock photos, AI and random pix I've found online. It's a little boring (and dare I say, a dash narcissistic) when a SW is only using images of themselves in their blog posts and if they've already been posted on social media/their website, no one cares. Trust me, your clients have already seen that image 5 million times.

There's nothing more satisfying than entering the state of flow that occurs when we're doing something we were meant to do. When I'm writing and expressing myself in a genuine, cathartic way, flow comes naturally and hours feel like minutes. It's especially fun creating silly, absurdly fake AI images and adding little touches to these posts that make them visually enticing to the reader.

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