S*x Work and Client Discrimination: I Get Older, and They Stay the Same Age

Why do certain providers discriminate regarding age and ethnicity? Why do some refuse to see men under the age of 30 or 25? The way I see and experience it is as follows: If he's old enough to join the Marines, he's old enough to pay me for my Time. This is probably a controversial statement, but I don't think compensated sex/spending time with folks is all that serious. Most of my time spent with admirers isn't sexual, BTW, it's emotional work.

Sex has no inherent moral meaning, despite what we've been brainwashed into believing by Abrahamic religion. A younger man is not going to be irrevocably traumatized if he sees me. Plus, it's not like a guy who's 24 can't consent to sex because he's younger and more immature. Double plus, I'd rather he does something mature and sees me as opposed to what 99.9% of men do, which is manipulate some naïve younger gal into sex with no intention of respecting her. Many, many men play with women's emotions for a lil pussy and I'd rather a younger guy sees a provider instead of leading women on.

No makeup. No fillers, botox or surgery. Just Cat MILF and red lipstick.

Men in Their 20's

"I'm 35+. You be too," read the ad copy on a Tryst ad I stumbled across recently. This provider is known to be very nasty, a huge bully/traumatizes other workers online (online abuse has real life effects), and is totally "out there" (lacking in self-awareness) so it kinda made sense that she had some extreme rule about client age. Every damn post on her social media was about Palestine. Give the virtue signaling a break. We get it: You're so empathetic, you care so much, you're totally not a malignant narcissist. (I'm not saying everyone who makes political statements is virtue signaling.)

She does a lot of online and lap dance club work so (I assume) doesn't really need money from in-person sessions and can afford to cut off quite a few quality admirers. This is a more extreme age minimum, with many providers refusing to see clients under the age of 25 for safety reasons.

I give this example of age discrimination because it illustrates how wildly varied provider age minimums can be. Age limits aren't a thing that I'm aware of, although I'm sure certain providers won't see admirers who are over a certain age. They are in the minority. Providers care about safety, not whether or not your dick works.

It is possible to generalize about men in their 20's: They are more likely to be porn sick/raised on devices and will attempt to reenact nonconsensual porn behavior. The two guys who recently "choked" me (not applying pressure, a light hand on my neck) were in their 20's. This doesn't trigger me because they weren't actually trying to choke me and were hesitant about it but it upsets me that men aren't taught to ask before touching. In porn, there's no such thing as consent because the actors are acting but we aren't taught this fact. Porn feels real so guys assume it is real.

Here are more stereotypes: Younger guys can be a lot more work. They're more insecure and see me as a Mommy who's there to do all the work and put them in their place so they act out. Generally, the younger generation are more insecurely attached and don't know how to human. Younger guys can be more volatile and likely to cause issues during an appointment. They may throw a tantrum if they don't get their way.

This is not my experience. Younger guys may need more guidance, but the ones who are attracted to me are very sweet. This can be said for my admirers in general: I'm clearly not someone who puts up with anything. In fact, I seem as though I may shank someone at any moment. Like, I'm itching for a reason.

Therefore, it's shocking how kind/good my clients are, regardless of age. I'm not lying when I tell you: My admirers are so kind and respectful. It was not like this when I was in my 20's/early 30's, so I know part of the shift in client behavior is the fact that asshole clients want a younger provider whom they can boss around/treat like shit, but I'm saving that discussion for my ageism and SW blog.

I also began loving myself in my 30's, so the type of admirer I attract has, miraculously, become loving and awesome.

Older men love it when I lip sync to my favorite female rap songs.

Older Dudes: Let's Stereotype

Older dudes can actually be far more problematic than younger guys or they can be super sweet, fun and awesome. It all depends on the energy we emit, determining the types of clients we generally attract.

Older guys are also addicted to the extreme dopamine spikes that are scientifically proven to occur when one is watching porn and may attempt to reenact non-consensual, rough, abusive behavior due to normalization via porn just like younger men. (Porn has damaged our culture and some of ya'll who work in the porn industry are super fucking biased, cherry picking your research and claiming it has no negative effects. Total bullshit. Should we ID verify to access porn sites? No, but there is nuance and extremes play well on social media but don't make sense IRL.)

Older men may throw providers around like rag dolls, seeing us as inanimate objects, because this is what porn has taught them. The only GFE client I've seen recently who asked for consent before every little thing he did (a huge turn on, something most guys don't realize) was in his 50's. I wouldn't say he was young or old because his energy was timeless. He was possibly the only doctor I've seen who wasn't extremely narcissistically, assholishly inclined and was super sweet with a smooth podcasting voice.

Young, old, in the middle: It doesn't matter to me.

Survival SW and Discrimination

The three times I've had super traumatizing experiences with clients, they were younger. They were also black. Am I going to not see young or black admirers because of that experience? No, because this happened many years ago before screening was a thing.

When I know who my clients are, they don't misbehave, generally speaking.

Discrimination based on superficial factors is something that survival workers (who can't screen clients) may choose to do. Blanket discrimination may make them feel safe because they can't screen and have no way of verifying whether that abusive client will show up again. People also tend to stereotype when they have bad experiences and are traumatized. They will do anything to protect themselves from that traumatizing situation and some SWer's see discrimination as a warm security blanket. I'm not saying it's right. It is and we can't judge unless we've been in the same situation.

But that's not the way outrage farming and rage baiting work on Twitter.

Twitter Toxicity

If a provider mentions the fact that she doesn't see a certain ethnicity of clients on Twitter, she's utterly cancelled by whatever troll SW decides to repost her and use her post to farm engagement. Folks don't see it as, "She's a survival worker who feels as though she can't screen. She's traumatized. Who she gives access to her body is her choice. Not everyone is allowed access to her body."

It is exceptionally stupid to make racist statements on Twitter regarding client discrimination because generally, folks who post about "not seeing POC clients" aren't survival workers. They're not working the blade.

That said, we should know that nuance/grey are lost on Twitter; no one has compassion for us or gives us grace, especially other workers looking to farm clout off our posts. Anything negative is pushed by the toxic algorithm and we are rage baited into futile anger that changes nothing but divides us all.

It is exceptionally stupid (and wrong) to discriminate against a certain ethnicity of clients if we have the ability to screen clients. Generally, the providers who make racist statement can screen clients and are just rage baiting, like a worker named Megan Luv. She was appealing to her MAGA base and claimed that she didn't see black clients. Another provider once said she doesn't see Indian clients. And on and on and on. These folks aren't generally survival workers who are traumatized and trying to stay safe: They're racist rage baiters.

My Age Minimum

I don't know if I could see a client who's under, say, 21. It's too weird.

Neuroscience knows almost nothing about the brain, but we do know that the brain is still forming until at least 25. Still, this is just sex. It's not that deep to me. Guys under 25 may be immature, but it won't harm him to spend time with me and, as I said, it's better than manipulating girls his age into sex. If his money is blue and passes my counterfeit tests, I'll take it.

Far more younger clients have been seeing me recently and I'm not sure what's going on. I did recently start branding myself as a Cat MILF (thank God/dess I don't have kids!) and I think that may be attracting the dudes who grew up on MILF porn. This 30-year-old I saw this week showed me his MILF porn collection and those supposed MILFs all looked 25-30. I suppose, as the Madonna/Whore paradox goes, women aren't fully fledged humans and are either "barely legal" or are old lady "MILF's."

If I implemented an age minimum, it wouldn't make sense because I enjoy my younger clients. They book longer sessions and are very generous, just like how we imagine older men to be. I have three three hour sessions booked in upstate NY with guys in their 20's! Crazy. As Matthew McConaughey said, "I get older, they stay the same age." Please don't forget to give my life meaning and hit like on my Bluesky promoting this blog!

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