You're Wearing Too Much Cologne: S*x Work and Scent
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The taste and smell of his cologne are all that I can concentrate on as he wriggles in ecstasy beneath me. Many men have very sensitive necks and I love the power I wield, licking my tongue languorously up and down, just beneath his earlobe. It's fun to drive him crazy and keep him breathless as I straddle him while wearing nothing but my leather skirt and black push-up bra.
He had requested a switchy roleplay session so I whispered in his ear, "I'm all yours, Daddy," as I lowered myself further onto his lap, moving his hands to my hips. It's so much fun to play around with power but his fragrance was a bit distracting.
"Why do they always put their cologne on their necks? I can taste it. It's also all that I can smell."
These are the thoughts floating through my head when a lover wears anything other than a very light dash of scent during a session. These are the thoughts floating through many a provider's head during sessions. Let's examine why so many men think they should wear cologne and how this may be inhibiting their relationships with providers and women generally.
Why would cologne be a bad thing to wear on a date? Because 30.5% of the U.S. general population reported scented products on others to be irritating, 19% reported adverse health effects from air fresheners, and 10.9% reported irritation by scented laundry products vented outside according to this research study.
My observation is that SWers are more sensitive than the general population so we're more likely to not do well when around someone who put on a few sprays of heavy cologne. SW attracts more folks on the spectrum, with chronic health conditions, allergies and more challenges that cause smells to have a stronger effect on us.
Yet when civilians conjure up images of providers, they imagine that we're doused in revolting chemical fragrance. You know that stereotype folks have of providers: They assume we're always wearing a mini-skirt, Pleaser stripper heels, a faux fur coat and reek of Pink Sugar perfume. Now, I do love Pleasers, miniskirts and slutty attire but I'd never dress like that while out with a client because discretion is generally preferred by my admirers. I wear long sleeves to hide my tattoo and dress conservatively on dates while barely using any fragrance. The stereotypes about SW are wrong 99% of the time.
Most providers only wear a light scent at the most because scent is not discreet. If I answer the door and hug an admirer while wearing a heavy perfume, that perfume is possibly now on his clothing. That's not discreet. I want to make my admirer's life as easy as possible and I want him to see repeatedly as my cute little beau, so why would I want someone in his life to find out about our connection by smelling my perfume on his shirt?
Smell and sex are inextricably linked. Increased olfactory sensitivity was linked to heightened pleasure during sex in both men and women and heightened orgasm frequency in women. The way we smell matters and this can lead some men to think that they need to smell like cologne when really, a natural scent is much sexier and they simply need to shower directly before seeing us so they smell fresh. They need to wash their ass and junk thoroughly with soap. Add a little native deodorant to top everything off. (I use the Sea Salt and Cedar one.)
We Ain't Built Like That
Humans are not built to tolerate chemicals so many people have developed sensitivities or allergies to chemical scents. If a scent isn't made with only pure essential oil, then it's full of dangerous chemicals. Fragrance chemicals aren’t benign – exposure to them can lead to a range of health problems. They can disrupt the hormone system. Some are phthalates, which can harm the reproductive system. Another fragrance chemical, styrene, is linked to cancer.
We evolved living off the land in harmony with plants, water, animals and all of nature because our lives depended on it. As chemicals have taken over the planet, are poured into the water, are emitted into the air, the soil, coat our clothing and bedsheets, are ingested, added to our food and much more, health conditions have also taken over. We're not built to live in this unnatural state and our souls can feel it. Our bodies can also feel it and may begin to rebel against the synthetic, whether it's a synthetic scent or synthetic food.
Chlorella: The Anti-BO Supplement
During my quest to improve my health, I discovered an algea called chlorella that almost totally eliminates body odor. After researching heavy metals and learning about how they can cause us to not feel great, I wanted to try a few substances that are purported to remove these dangerous toxins from our bodies and chlorella was a noted heavy metal binder. Chlorella has been shown to help lower the amount of other harmful chemicals that are sometimes found in food. One of these is dioxin, a hormone disruptor that can contaminate animals in the food supply.
But the dirty details are really in the Amazon reviews: I was sold on the product after people claimed it prevented them from getting stinky body odor. What is this magical little green stuff? As someone who runs hot and sweats, I had to try it and it works shockingly well for me. They put so many chemicals in our food, our water and more that if we're not taking a detoxifier, we're stinky. At least, that's my theory as to why this algae reduces body odor for so many people. I ran out of it last summer while visiting my family in CT and I was like oh, yeah, I stink.
Just Ask
Many providers, myself included, enjoy it when admirers wear a light scent and I hope more folks begin to ask their lovers about their scent preferences. Generally, I dislike most colognes because I don't like heavy scents. Light, clean fragrance like Clinique Happy for Men is cool but just put a dab somewhere that's not your neck. Just deodorant alone is often enough because I am sensitive to smell. It's better to be under-scented than over-scented.
But don't listen to me. Ask the provider you're seeing, "Hey, do you have a preference regarding fragrance? Should I wear cologne?" Men who care are sexy. Nonchalance is not sexy and it is in fact a huge turn off. Ask her what she likes every step of the way and she'll feel connected, respected, desired and wanted.
Please, for the love of Santisima, stop putting fragrance on your neck because your lover can taste it if they decide to kiss you there! I am a practitioner of the Dark Arts so yes, I am allowed to put my magical oils all over my neck but I play by different rules than ye mere mortals.
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